It’s unbelievable how fast time flies by, especially when you look back to important dates in history. All of us will forever have etched in our minds where we were, and what we were doing on September 11, 2001. Another date etched in my head was on October 28, 1985. For most everybody that date doesn’t mean a thing, but for me, it was the beginning of my life being married to my best friend whose name is Tami.
She is my soulmate and my gift from God. Without God being the center of our marriage, we would have never made it. We made our vows between the two of us, and to God who joined us together. We vowed to love each other, forever. We vowed to be honest, patient and forgiving. We vowed to stick with each other, through sickness as well as health, if we were rich or poor, until we are parted by death. Being, honest, patient and forgiving was the easy part of our marriage. In the 30 years we have been married we have never had a big fight We have never raised our voice to each other. We have had some disagreements, but it never lasted more than an hour before we worked things out. We have above all, respected each other and always considered each other a gift from God.
Now don’t get me wrong, there were huge struggles to overcome. Money in most marriages is a big issue, but money was never an fighting issue, we always knew if we could spend or couldn’t spend, and there were many years that we couldn’t spend. We have made it through the richer or poorer part of our vows by the grace of God, literally. The hardest thing we had to deal with in our vows was the sickness and health. Tami, this vibrant, outgoing, friend to everyone, type of person was overcome by headaches and bad doctors that landed her in bed the majority of our thirty year marriage. Again, by the grace of God, she is well and being that vibrant, outgoing person I said my vows to so many years ago.
The glue that holds us together is Jesus above, and our undying love for each other. I do believe in God, and that He does answer our prayers. It might not be in our time frame, but He does answer prayers. He doesn’t carry a watch, but He does however want us to wait on Him. He wants our attention, and He wants us to depend on Him alone. In our marriage, we have trusted God, and by His grace he has blessed our marriage and kept us strong.
Tami, it was 30 years ago that I said “I Do”, and with everything we have been through, I would say it again, “I Do”!! Tami, you are my best friend, I am so in love with you, now and forevermore.
Please read the trivia below:
David: age 31
Tami: age 24
- We weren’t married in a church, but on a cruise ship which we were allowed to board two hours ahead of everyone else. We set sail to Ensenada Mexico 4 hours later.
- The captain of the Queen Mary, an ordained minister, married us.
- Neither of us had any family members at our wedding, only friends. It was easier as we had both been married before and our families lived in different states.
- We had a wedding crasher that we noticed in our pictures and not before then.
- I won the cruise selling Rainbow vacuums.
- I did not meet Tami’s parents until after we were married. I got lucky! They liked me!
- We met at our mailbox in our apartment complex where we both lived in. We stood and talked there for an hour.
- I gave her flowers each month for an entire year.
- She IS my best friend that I am so in love with, now and forever!
- By the grace of God, we’ll make it another 30 years!!.